It may not seem like it when you walk into the grocery store or the mall, but Thanksgiving will be upon us before we know it. Those responsible for cooking the big meal are planning their days, those who are travelling are getting ready for the crush of people at the airport, and divorced and separated parents are drawing battle lines as it pertains to holiday parenting time.
Of course, Thanksgiving is a time for family. Those who have separated or divorced have two families, but inevitably a conflict arises because one parent (and in some instances, both) refuse to compromise and allow the child to spend time with the other’s family. In the midst of sticking to their guns or not allowing the other parent to intimidate them, parents notoriously forget about how not seeing the other parent will affect the child.
How things may look from a child’s perspective
Despite what you may think about the other parent (or his or her family) they are still a parent, and the child looks up to them. Even if the child is upset with the other parent, it is very likely that the child longs for a relationship that he or she can be proud of. Because of this, limiting the time that a child can be with that parent does not necessarily further the child’s best interests. In fact, it may lead to the child resenting you in the future.
Parenting time resolutions are key in reducing conflict
As such, if there is a dispute over parenting time during Thanksgiving, or the subsequent weekend, take time to reach a resolution. While it may seem like you are giving in to a petulant parent, it is really about ensuring that the child has equal time with the other parent to share memories. Even more important, you can lay a foundation for avoiding similar struggles during Christmas and future holidays.
Contact an experienced family law attorney in Calabassas
If you have questions or need guidance on resolving parenting time issues, an experienced family law attorney can advise you. Perhaps your situation requires mediation or court intervention. Regardless, a skilled lawyer can help you make informed decisions on how to proceed.
The preceding is not legal advice and is presented for informational purposes only.